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NICHOLAS BOOTHMAN
strangers you’re attracted to in two ways: the direct
approach and the indirect approach.
The Direct Approach
For most of us, this is scary. Unless you’re a movie
star, on the Blue Jays baseball team, or a notoriously
wealthy bachelor, it takes a lot of guts to approach a
stranger and start talking. But sometimes it’s act now
or never see the person again and the strength of your
feelings overwhelms you and compels you to act.
When you are unsure, use the three-second rule to
overcome hesitation. One, two, three; here we go.
The goal is to simply greet, nod, or acknowledge a
few strangers while you’re out and about.
Try it for yourself. Start small, choose strangers
who aren’t intimidating in any way: a barista, a sales
assistant, or a friendly looking old person. You’re not
going to start a conversation unless the opportunity
comes up—if you do, that’s a bonus.
You are creating a new habit, with “one, two, three”
as your trigger. Practice, practice, practice—just do it.
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