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Walters, Tiger Woods, Margaret Thatcher, Richard
Branson, and Lady Gaga didn‘t say, "I‘ll try." They
grabbed their ideas and ran with them. Not one of them
will tell you it didn‘t come without hard work. Not one
of them will tell you they didn‘t ache, agonize, practice,
and polish their talents, knacks, and attributes every
moment of every day.
The same advice applies to words like must, should,
ought to, etc.
4. Turn Off The Blame Game
The blame game is a linguistic villain lurking in the
shadows, ready to sabotage our lives. In a study called
Blame Contagion, researchers Will M. Hart, John F.
Dovidio and Samuel L. Gaertner determined that
people who love pointing fingers and blaming others end
up losing status, earning less and performing worse. It's
like a self-destruct button they've unknowingly pressed.
What‘s more, blame doesn't just mess with your success;
it also snatches away your chances for positive change.
Blaming others is no big surprise. Listen to your
friends, neighbors, and the media. We are surrounded by
helpless language. "The politicians are to blame."
"Blame it on the unions." "The doctor says it‘
s
impossible." "Life‘s too short." "It‘s Monday!" "Obesity is
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