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a disease." "He‘s shy." "It is what it is." "It‘s Friday—what
do you expect?" "My ex is a complete jerk!"
I overheard this conversation recently. "My
boyfriend‘s angry with me. He blamed me for getting a
speeding ticket, but it wasn‘t my fault; it was my boss‘
s
fault for making me work late. And the cashier at the
supermarket, too. If she‘d been organized, I‘d have been
out of there in good time. And the cop. Couldn‘t he see
my stupid car could never go as fast as he said?"
Is this someone ready to open a Flowpath? There‘
s
no mystery about how to get out of the blame game.
Listen out for negative, helpless, and blaming language.
Let it trigger an awareness in yourself to monitor your
own thoughts and words until you can remove blame
and excuses from your thinking.
5. Cultivate Confidence
Cultivating confidence empowers you to explore new
ideas, challenge your existing beliefs, and take risks.
If you look closely at confident people, you will find
they are not afraid of failure. They know there’s no such
thing as failure: there’s only feedback. One of the most
important lessons in life is to learn from your failures. It‘
s
okay to mess up and to fall, but what‘s not okay is to stay
down. When you fail, process feedback, get back up, and
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