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The other: “No. It’s that our romance has been so whirlwind that I’ve been simply enjoying it and not thinking what to do about it.”
One: “Are we going anywhere, or is this just a transient affair?”
The other: “It’s too early to tell. It certainly feels like it’s going to be a life-long love. But I’ll think deeply about it and we’ll talk about it over the weekend.”
One: “That’s way too rational. You obviously don’t love me enough. You’re a player. Go play and leave me alone.”
But Hollywood goes for maximum drama, with
the above discussion probably involving buckets of tears, a broken lamp or two, and maybe a gun. But it’s reasonable to request time to consider what you want. It requires great courage to commit to a life-long, or just long, relationship. You are giving up the realm of possibilities. You don’t want to be steamrolled into it. Yet, as the above example shows, it’s possible that by trying to buy enough time to think about it, you may lose the relationship. If that’s the case, don’t worry
so much. The person who’s doing the steamrolling
must be hiding something that causes them to be so insecure that they feel the need of steamrolling. On the other hand, if you’re not prepared to lose a lover over scheduling, then take a deep breath and plunge into the
talk.If they do agree to discuss the issue in the near future, you should give them the respect of making that