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Sefer Chafetz Chayim םייח ץפח רפס
Hilchot Esurei Lashon Hara ערה ןושל ירוסיא תוכלה
Kelal Tet - Halachah 5 א הכלה - י ללכ

and the more he cautions them the more they will degrade the “victim.” אימוד הנוי 'ר בתכדמ אוה .אל וא הזמ םיעדוי )ב(
This would be similar to the concept that one should not praise his friend
because inevitably it will lead to Lashon Hara (Gemara Babba Batra .דיעהל ךירצ ינווג לכב םשו ד"בב דחא דעד
164b). Regarding what his correct response should be in order to satisfy
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his obligation to Hashem, please see the discussion above in the 6 Kelal,
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5 halacha. ןידו ,ח"כר רמאמב הנוי 'ר בתכ ןכ .ול עדונו )ג(
(K9/4/5)-(14)..to answer them back and scold them: All this is אוה םא ןכש לכו ,לארשי שיא םתסב וליפא אוה הז
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a quote from Rabbeinu Yonah’s Shaare Teshuvah, the 3 sha’ar, section אלש הלחתמ ול ררבתיש ךירצ יאדוב םכח דימלת
#197 - #198. (Please see that reference).
)ט"י( תוכרבב ורמאש ומכ ,וסייפ אלו הליזגה בישה
אנוממב לבא םש ורמאש המו .'וכו ח"ת תיאר םא

Daily Halacha: 13 Kislev, 13 Nissan, 13 Av; Leap Year- 17 Kislev, 26 Adar II, 7 Av וילע רמול ןיא ,בישה אלש עודי םא ונייה 'וכו
Mekor Hachayim ןינעב הבושתה רקיע יכ ,'הל הבושת השע אמש
קפס אוה אפוג הז רבדב םא לבא ,הבשהה איה ןוממ
K9/ . Understand clearly that even if someone hears his young
son or daughter speaking Lashon Hara, it is a mitzvah to scold him רעצה רובע וסייפ וא הליזגה תא ול בישה אמש
/ her and to separate him / her from this sin, as Shelomo HaMelech .םירחא לצא הזב ותונגל רוסא יאדוב ,תשובהו
teaches in sefer Mishle (22:6): “Teach the child at the level of his
understanding, ability and personality,” and as is explained in Orach
Chayim section #343, paragraph #1, that this applies to instructing רמאמב הנוי 'ר בתכ ןכ .'וכו וינפ שקיב אלו )ד(
the child regarding all of the esurim of the Torah. (Please see the
following Hagahah) ולזג לע םגו ושייבו ורעיצ לע יאקו ש"יע ח"כר
ש"מו .ול לחמו וסייפ םא ימנ ינהמ םשד וקשע וא
וירבדב הנוי 'ר בתכ ןכ ,םיערה םישעמה תונגלו
Hagahah
הפ והונקתעהו ב"ב תצבוקמ הטישב םיאבומה
How important it is for a father to constantly guide his children in the laws .רפסה ףוסב
of guarding \ disciplining their speech from the time they are youngsters
(and similarly instructing them regarding other things that are forbidden,
like for example, not to become involved in controversy or not to lie).
The Vilna Gaon in his Sefer Aleem Le’Terufah teaches that speech and
the conduct of good character traits require intense, constant training.
Only through this repetitive training will one reach the point where good
character traits become routine habit. Truthfully, when one thinks carefully
about this subject he will discover that the reason that this bitter sin of
Lashon Hara is so widespread is because from the time they are children
everyone has gotten used to saying whatever comes to mind without even
the slightest thought that the language they are using might be forbidden.

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