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share it with so that you will not be gossiping when or if you choose to speak to others
about it.

Gossip is destructive. It is healing when a person hears something you said about them and
is able to say, “I already know about that; he/she told me.” These two scriptures helped me
redefine how I deal with anger. They have been a source of healing for me and the person
who made me angry. I got tired of burning bridges when people made me angry. Now, I
am able to handle interpersonal issues in a productive, fair, healing manner which causes
my relationships to grow stronger.

You can either be as destructive, dysfunctional, and insensitive as the person who violated
you, or you can choose to be a catalyst for healing and growth to everyone who encounters
you by choosing to respond to your anger in a healthy manner. You can experience the joy
of planting healthy seeds in the lives of people who interact with you. It is up to the other
person to be willing to resolve the issue with you. When they are not, leave them alone.
Do not proceed any further with them. If you are entangled with them, do the things you
need to do to untangle yourself.

Fortunately, the information in this book teaches you tools you can use to stay out of toxic
entanglements. However, these tools also helped build bridges to success with people who
want to build with you. I may have had to let my family go. But I have people in my life
who want to experience what my family had rejected. The relationships I have with people
who want to build with me are phenomenal. My friendships are fantastic. My friends are
like family. They express their willingness to be there for me. And they are mentally and
emotionally there for me whenever I need them, and I am there for them.

Do not compromise what you want. You deserve to be happy. Only build healthy
relationships with others. When you can’t build them with others, enjoy the one you are
building with yourself, and you will attract healthy people to you. Set appropriate
boundaries for toxic people and don’t move forward with them unless they are ready to
resolve the issue. Remember, sometimes the boundary line may have to be far away from
you. It is okay to protect your wellbeing.

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