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focus on working, loving, salary, paying
mortgage…. They forget the important
lesson: the lesson to be a human being, to
be a good human, a good citizen, to be a
good child, to be a good wife, a good
husband, a good father, a good mother
who fulfil their responsibility, fulfil the
tasks that are assigned by God and the
Universe.
 They do not know what Happiness is,
where Happiness is, what True Love is.
They run instead of walking, instead of
stopping for a while to take a look, to
learn, to enjoy life.
I would like to read a poem made by a
young man hurrying to love and torture
himself.
On this afternoon, I recall my broken
wounds
Happened with my first love
I found I was a fool
Tortured myself
5. How to be truly happy, to live
meaningful? How to live the life you
deserve?
What is Great Love? It’s not having many
people loving you, or love many people.
It is to love one person for a life time.
Another question for adult: What is soul
mate? Are you looking for soul mate?
Why don’t you be a soul mate for your
loved one? You are looking for ideal
lover? Why don’t you be an ideal lover
for your loved one? To my opinion, to
love someone is to give that person
freedom, not putting him or her in a cage
like putting a cool wind in a closed room
for yourself.
Love is eyes, is ear, is mouth. Loving  Learn how to be grateful, to forgive, to be
eyes look at mankind. Loving ears listen
to mankind (you need to listen to
unspoken words like Kuan Yin). Loving
mouth only speaks loving words, not
scolding, not insulting your loved one…
Hội Ngộ Liên Trường Kiên Giang 2019
In summary, in order to have True
Happiness, Great Love, life-long
relationship, one needs to have
immeasurable Love and Compassion.
I would like to share the following story
which I am very much impressed. Once
there are many Buddhist monastics from
different ethnic backgrounds in a
monastery in California USA like the
Vietnamese, the European, the American
and the Asian. An Italian assistant Abbot
shared that: Sometimes I witnessed some
people got upset and left the Sangha. I
think differently. I think the sangha to be
as same as a boat. When I face a
problem, I will not leave the boat easily.
Even more I think myself I am that Boat,
the Boat of Sangha. I don’t want to run
away and build another temple for
myself. I will live and die with the
sangha. If the problem is too difficult to
solve, if I want to leave the sangha, I will
ask the sangha to give me one more year
to think thoroughly before I make final
decision. Similarly, if you are in a
marriage relationship, do not give up
easily just because of one or some
mistakes from your partner. You are the
boat, you share the happiness, sadness
and responsibility together. I would like
to suggest that you consider a timeframe
of 3 months or 3 years to think thoroughly
before you make a final decision to
separate or divorce.
In general, in order to live a meaningful
and responsible life (like being an orange
tree not a lemon tree, a lion not a monkey,
fragrant roses…), you need to cultivate
these characters:
patient. That’s the key to True Love. It is
said that: Gratitude will bring you
happiness. The greatest asset of a person
is not knowledge, but a listening “heart”,
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