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Be patient with yourself
Grieving takes time. It takes far longer Create new routines and rituals
than anyone expects, particularly you. Develop new routines and patterns
You really don’t ever get “over it” but as you search for the new you.
you can get “through it”. This loss is a Acknowledge the empty chair and
part of your life. Be assured, you will move it. Rearrange your furniture and
not always feel as you do right now. create a space just for you. Exercise at
Listen to yourself and go forward at a specific time each day. Journal and
your own pace. Don’t be surprised make an entry daily. Daily patterns will
when grief shows up again. Just when help you develop your new identity
you think you might be doing better, and find a new normality.
you may find yourself crying in the
grocery store or when you hear a Find ways to remember the life of
specific song on the radio. Anger and your loved one daily. You do not
guilt can strike anywhere at any time. have to say goodbye. It is important
Forgive yourself for living when your to acknowledge the change in your
loved one did not. relationship. You do not stop loving
someone just because they have died.
Find yourself You can still maintain a relationship in
Grief has changed your life completely. your heart. They are a part of who you
You cannot go back to being who you are and who you are becoming.
were. You really don’t ever get “over
it” but you can get “through it”. You Reach out to others
can learn to live with who you are now. Learn to ask for what you need. Your
Most bereaved people experience a family and friends want to help, so let
change of perspective and discover them know how. Turn to people you can
that their priorities change. Now is a trust for support and for information.
time to take a personal inventory and Find people who will listen when you
reassess your beliefs and values. You want to talk. Leave the scrapbook or
may find great comfort in your faith photo album out on the coffee table
community as you look for meaning. so others can remember and share
You will discover new strengths and memories with you.
talents. Trust your heart.
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