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service to the family at a later date. (grandparent, aunt, uncle) they
A commitment of service can be should be given the option to attend.
something as simple as cooking them However, if it is not appropriate for
dinner, or offering to clean up their your child to be there and if you feel
house, any of the “little” things that they will cause a commotion, leave
may be neglected while a family deals them with a babysitter.
with death. Make sure you provide a
signed card so the family knows who Be afraid to remember the good
gave the gift. times - funerals are obviously a
time of grieving and mourning, but
Keep in touch - you may feel that the remembering the good times helps
family needs their space and time to with the healing process. Sharing
grieve, but a simple phone call or a funny and appropriate story is
note after the funeral lets the family acceptable, and, in some cases exactly
know you care. With social networking what the deceased would
leaving a quick note is as simple as a have wanted.
click of a mouse. The months following
a death is when grieving friends and
family need the most support. Understanding Grief
The death of a loved one, friend or
Don’t: family member often puts us in touch
Bring your cell phone - your phone with our own thoughts and feelings
ringing will be highly inappropriate about mortality. All of a sudden
and will cause a disturbance, so turn we realize how quickly life can end.
any ringers or notifications off. Even It is normal to feel out-of-control
better, leave your phone at home or and overwhelmed. Realize you are
in your car, a funeral is not the time to grieving.
be texting or checking your messages.
The first step towards regaining a
Allow your children to be a distraction sense of control is to understand
- from a very young age children are grief. Grief is a physical, social,
aware of death and if the funeral is emotional, psychological and spiritual
for someone that was close them reaction to loss. It is natural, normal
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