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and when you want to stay in love with someone, the agenda is quite different. The goal when you love someone is to preserve and strengthen the relationship — and when that is the goal there are going to be points in time when one or both partners fall short, and apologies must be offered and forgiveness given, but it can be difhicult.
Here is an impossible suggestion which will make a lot of people think I am off my rocker:
If you are disappointed by your partner, and the disappointment is over something small but insanely annoying, use that as an opportunity to pull closer to your partner, and become more tolerant of their Klaws. Give your partner a pass on the little things.
No. You are not doing that, right? You don’t think you should remind yourself of why you fell in love with your partner when they are being annoying. How about if you think about it this way:
How would you feel if they did that for you?
How would you feel if you were acting like a bit of a jerk and your partner gave you a coupon, just because they love you?
How about if, from time to time, you did that for one another?
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