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For both big and little disappointments that are either unexpressed or expressed but ultimately glossed over or ignored, relationship repair is an active and ongoing process that partners bring to a “healing space” in their partnership.
Healing Space
If we think of intentions as being like the ticker on the bottom of a news screen, when that ticker is announcing “important relationship news,” that news requires paying attention to. The disappointments we have been talking about are not necessarily “bad news,” but they are events that require addressing in some space in your mind or they most certainly will become bad news.
The space in a person’s mind is a very vast space. I could make the argument that it is an “inhinite space” but people would argue that there are times when the mind is so full that it just cannot hold another thought. I accept that, but when the mind space is running full with stress or is overwhelmed you must still go some place to repair the stress.
We all build “compartments” in our minds to contain our thoughts and feelings. As we go through the day to day we direct attention to those compartments, especially when something is bothering us. We have all had that feeling of being “nagged” by a thought or a feeling, when regardless of what we are doing in the here and now our
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