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attention is drawn to a compartment that is hurting or frightened or worried.
When something is bothering us we create “triggers” which drive us to the compartments that are calling out for attention. Thats why it’s possible to have a conversation with your partner that sounds like this:
“Hon, can you please remind me to stop at the dry cleaners on my way back to the ofKice?”
And the reply is:
“Why do you always make everything my responsibility? Do you hate
me?”
If you and your partner could actually “read each other’s minds,” this would be far less confusing. We would know what was going on “behind the scenes” and we could address it. It’s no secret that partners sometimes act as though they expect one another to be mind readers.
Since that is not possible, as long as we can build places in our minds to focus and concentrate on our thoughts and emotions, partners can build a “healing space” to invite dialogue, forgiveness and repair.
The invitation itself is easy to send:
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