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When relationships degrade to the point that they are beyond the point of achieving anything meaningful it is because one or both partners refuse to work or re-dedicate. Ultimately the relationship becomes non operational or dysfunctional.
Here are short descriptions of relationship patterns that do not and sometimes should not remain in people’s lives forever.
Bad Love
Bad love is “toxic” love. While the process of deepening a relationship is the transformative application of re-dedication and fortifying one’s partner, bad love ignores this process. Bad love usually fortihies the self but not the partner or the relationship. After the transition between the idealistic phase of hirst love (which is sometimes short lived), the relationship degrades to a point of imbalance and inequity and remains in a state where one partner seeks control by overpowering the other. Behavior which signals this need to overpower and dominate includes humiliating, degrading, physically overpowering or entrapping the weaker, more submissive partner.
People naturally wonder why anyone would stay in a relationship like this. Sometimes the submissive, abused partner hopes for a return to a time where “it wasn’t this bad.” Hope and wishful thinking are often the only defense mechanisms for salvaging a bad relationship if the partner’s self esteem has been so damaged (or was not present at any point in the relationship due to past assaults
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