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Commitment
Commitment is an “active” process. It is an ongoing acceptance of responsibility. It is a dedication to the “real person” we are introduced to after the turning point of partnership. During this second phase, the phase of “real love,” we battle complacency and familiarity, which cause us to passively accept the devotion of our partner and follow the more natural course of doing what is good for ourselves. The act of reminding ourselves to strengthen the relationship by promoting our partner’s value and importance is an active process which must be renewed often.
Knowledge
We are taught about nourishing a relationship by parents and others who nurture us as children. The act of placing another’s needs above our own is shown by example by those who rear us. Some of us are more fortunate than others in this regard. But if we didn’t have it, we can learn about it — and that’s what this program is about. So whether we get it by example or by seeking it, we acquire knowledge to help strengthen commitment and to serve as a base to return to when we seek answers about what is important to us.
Guidance
Knowledge is important but often requires support in the form of guidance — from a community of like minded people, from teachers, mentors and facilitators who we trust and from information which
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