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offers food for thought. In a healthy loving partnership guidance is directly exchanged with our partner — it is an essential commodity that produces balance and equity in that partnership. In a healthy and loving relationship we have to be willing to hold our partner up; and we have to be willing to be held up by them.
Focus
Engaging in a loving partnership involves bringing your partner and their needs into a high priority within our “thinking self.” The thinking self is the interface between our thoughts and actions. While parts of our thinking are automatic, all of the important dedications and intentions need to be “put” there with intention.
Practice
Important intentions, such as how present we are for our partner, become habits when we practice them, when we remind ourselves of how important the important people in our lives are. While people assume that who we love know they are important, without intention and without practice it is easy to fall into the more passive states of thinking like, “he knows I love him“ but we all need to be reminded of how important it is to prioritize our intentions toward the people we love. In the beginning of ideal love we think about our love with obsessive determination. This can’t be sustained because if we sustained that level of interest, we would not be able to do anything else. So when we enter real love we seek balance and avoid
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