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the passive state of ignoring the responsibility of practicing the intention to love.
Failure
Anything worth doing at a high level is worth the experience of failing at it. I hate failing at things and I get annoyed when I’m told I have to “embrace” my failures and my shortcomings, but there are some things about failure that I do think are helpful despite the fact that the experience is a bitter pill. For instance, the productive analysis of failure can improve our intentions because that process puts a pin in experiences we might not want to return to, or at least prevents us from returning to as often. There is also a non productive analysis of failure, the type of which intensihies self doubt and overlays critical and self punishing thinking about ourselves. When partnering in love we will fail because we are imperfect. Loving relationships involve the intention to accept failure, look at the circumstances which caused it and dedicate the work to make things better.
Self Appraisal
On the list of “things to do” to improve yourself as a person, self appraisal or being able to judge the quality of our own actions and intentions is one of the more difhicult successes to achieve. One reason is that it is so much easier to judge others! When we look inward and take stock of how we behave, sometimes we don’t like what we come up with. However, sometimes we can be proud of that
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