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“I understand that not everyone thinks about things the same way. Maybe we can work on Kinding a middle ground.”
This is a way of acknowledging that your partner might have a different way of thinking about or experiencing something.
As opposed to:
“He should learn to express himself the way I think he should.”
(Hey, that’s a double should!)
And from the perspective of the partner who is more closed off emotionally:
“My partner is hoping for me to express myself more. Maybe I can learn how and maybe she can teach me.”
As opposed to:
“My partner should realize that expressing myself is just ‘not me’ and she should stop bugging me about ‘my feelings.’”
(Another double should).
When people can’t control their shoulds I sometimes say they are:
“Shoulding in their pants.”
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