Page 50 - SILFlip

The Major Disappointments:
We don’t pay enough attention to attention
I have spoken about how people differ in the amount of attention they need from a partner; and how they differ in what they expect from a partner. Some are hine with a pat on the back (either higuratively or literally), some need a full body massage. Some people require a kiss a day, some need lots of kisses. Some people require very little by way of “checking in” and some expect a lot of it. What I mean by “checking in,” can be as simple as a loving glance, but these days “checking” in can happen with a call, an email, a text message. You can’t ignore electronic communication in modern culture because technology has become very signihicant in both the creation and management of relationships. It has more than made its way into the fabric of our love relationships. Checking in also happens without technology. There used to be something called “smiling,” which some people do when they do not have time to type an emoji. Believe it or not emojis are symbols for real behavior that people did somewhere between the time after we stopped drawing on cave walls and before we started buying seven year old kids thousand dollar cell phones. I understand that I am being snarky here. Not sorry.
Forgetting to be mindful (or not paying attention because you are too consumed with yourself) about what kind of attention your partner needs will introduce disappointment into your relationship.
Staying in Love: Secret Recipes For Making Love Last 50