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And the other partner says:
“No you don’t. I would love it if you said those things to me!”
Sometimes one person doesn’t actually say those things and thinks they do, and sometimes they say them and the other partner just doesn’t hear them. The solution to each of these problems is make sure you do it, make sure your partner hears it, and make sure you listen when your partner is telling you something nice. Do these things more than you think you need to and you will be contributing to what it takes to stay in love.
Being (Too) Comfortable With Being Comfortable
As normal as it might be to become “comfortable with being comfortable,” in a relationship, the tendency is to become so comfortable that we disappoint our partner from time to time. This is also normal. We are all imperfect and from time to time that imperfection shows itself in the form of selhishness or becoming out of tune with what our partner needs or expects. Inevitably, this leads to disappointment. There are many pathways to disappointing a partner and I have made a list of some of the more common ones.
There is overlap in them and the list is not exhaustive, but these are dynamics of disappointment worth thinking about. You see what I am doing here? I am telling you to think (or to consider these things in your “intentions”).
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