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• Some partners think that if you say it too much the expression loses its meaning so they dole out saying it like Willie Wonkas Golden tickets.
• Some people become very disappointed if their partner doesn’t say it or return it at the end of every phone call or text.
• Some partners say it because they want to hear it in return. The say “Love youuuuuu....” So you will say “Love you toooooooo....”
• Some partners withhold saying it if they know you want to hear it because they are passive aggressive and they use it to control and manipulate you more than to make you feel loved and cherished. Those people are not really saying “I love you.” Those people are using NOT saying I love you as a way of saying “Go fuck yourself.”
• Some partners want the other person to say it hirst so they do not risk rejection.
• Some partners won’t say it hirst and won’t say it back. They use code words like “ditto” or “thanks.” That can drive a person who wants to hear the uncoded version nuts.
• Some partners actually count how many times the other person says it and become disappointed when the numbers are ‘going down’.
• Some partners won’t say it if other people are around.
Expressing one’s love through words is a function of a lot of things, some of which might not have anything to do with how much they love you. Upbringing, insecurity, temperament and prior relationship history make it more than what a partner feels about you.
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