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If you are the partner who is disappointed by the number of “I love you’s” you recievereceive maybe it has less to do with you than you think — and maybe you should spend some time thinking about your insecurities in general. But maybe the words are not being followed with actions. In the process of managing disappointment in your relationship these are all very worthwhile ideas to consider.
You can ask for “I love you’s” as long as you do not ask often. You can tell your parter that it would make you happy if you heard it more. If you ask openly and your partner pays attention and says it you have done a beautiful thing. You asked for nourishment for your soul and got it in three syllables. Partners often do not realize how little it takes to make someone happy.
By the same token, if you are the partner that knows your partner is disappointed by how often or when or where you say it get over yourself and make your partner feel more secure and comfortable. This is not donating an organ or emptying your bank account. It’s three words. Say them and do things to show you mean it.
And by the way, there are other words that are important:
• words of gratitude (“I appreciate what you did for me today.”)
• words of admiration (“You look amazing”, “Wow you are so smart.”) • words of encouragement (“I know you can do it and I am in your
corner.”)
• words of consolation (“I am sorry that happened to you. You don’t
deserve it.”)
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