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“How are things going with you and Jim,”
and you answer:
“We are in a really good place.”
Partners can’t always be deepening their bonds. There are other things to do in life. So in between the experiences and events which draw us closer to one another we “rest” and that is hine as long as that rest does not become boredom or complacency, which might make you forget to appreciate your partner. Rest but don’t forget to appreciate (if you will permit me to nag a bit). This is a good holding energy.
When your relationship is stuck in an unproductive place this circumstance of “holding energy” makes your relationship feel stale and disappointing; and when you are asked how things are going you’ll probably say:
“Meh, same old, same old.”
When partners are in this unproductive holding pattern both have to decide to pull together, manage their disappointment, and move in a better direction.
Keep track of whether you are pulling, pushing or resting and try to be aware of what your partner thinks about it too, because if you have followed me to here you can see that if one person is resting
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