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For instance, you say:
“Hey, do you think you can help me Kind my car keys, I thought they were right here on the table.”
If your partner is having a bad day, or is operating on some unexpressed agenda that has been running around in their head for days, they might say:
“Why should I help you Kind your car keys when every time I tell you we have to spend some time at my parent’s house you blow me off?”
The content is about lost car keys. The process is someone has been waiting for an opportunity to punch their partner in the nose (not literally). In that short example it’s easy to see that there is something going on that is not being spoken about; and some past injury that is sore and aching and needs to be addressed with understanding and eventually forgiveness.
Another way of describing what is happening using other concepts I have said are important is:
There is an equity imbalance in the relationship and instead of seeking to re-balance how emotional transactions are traded, resentment is the “trading currency” and disappointment is causing the slighted partner to push away.
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