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important behavior in the their children. One of those important behaviors is the behavior of enjoying one’s own efforts at success and achievement. So, in this section I am underscoring the importance of intrinsic rewards, and in the next section I will cover ways of becoming a good role model for it.
Summary
Part of being a good family leader means understanding how important it is to incentivize kids to behave in ways that help them achieve success and maximize their achievements. How you reward a child is important. You must learn to choose reasonable goals. You must make sure that the performance you expect produces more success than frustration. You must follow through on the contingencies that you set, and not “change the deal.”
Not all kids are incentivized with the same incentives and in the same ways. Like most of parenting you must be a good experimenter and rely on the the techniques that you have observed work effectively.
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