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The dynamics of trust are delicate in important relationships, and the loss of trust
can be costly — not only psychologically, but also financially and in terms or
work and livelihood.
What’s helpful to remember is that trust is an ongoing exchange between people
and is not static. Trust can be earned. It can be lost. And it can be regained.
Trust is one of the most important aspects of
relationships
According to leading relationship experts, John and Julie Gottman, qualities
related to trust and trustworthiness are the most important characteristics people
want in a spouse or partner.
But how do we build trust? Feelings of trust tend to be built in small moments
such as when we show up for each other, listen when others are upset and when
we prioritize our important relationships over other people and things.
John Gottman shares that in addition to being important in marriages and other
intimate relationships, trust is essential to what makes human communities of all
kinds work.
In other words, without trust there can be no meaningful connection between
people.
While trust is one of the most common words in the English language, it’s also
commonly misunderstood. Trust may mean different things to different people—
particularly across differences.
Researcher and educator, Brené Brown, emphasizes the importance of breaking
down the concept of trust into specific qualities and behaviors so that it can be
more easily understood.
Drawing from her extensive research, Brown offers the acronym BRAVING to
share qualities that contribute to building and sustaining trust in relationships with
partners, friends, family members and co-workers:
