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B = Boundaries

Can I trust you to be clear about what is okay and not okay in this relationship?

Can I trust you to understand and respect my boundaries?

Are you willing to say “no” and respect my need to say “no” sometimes? Do you
understand that setting boundaries is often one of the most loving things we can do

in our relationships?

R = Reliability

Will you follow through and do what you say you’re going to do? Can I trust that
you won’t over promise on your ability or capacity to complete tasks or projects?

Are you able to balance competing priorities? Can I trust these things about you
consistently and over time?

A = Accountability

Can I trust that when you make a mistake that you will own it, apologize and make

amends? Am I willing to hold myself accountable for the mistakes I make as well?

V = Vault

Do you hold in confidence what I share with you? Do we hold in confidence what
others have shared with us when those stories are not ours to share?

I = Integrity

Can I trust that you will act from your integrity including choosing courage over
comfort; choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast or easy; and practicing your

values and not just professing them.

N = Non-judgment

Do I know that I can fall apart and be in struggle and pain and that you won’t
judge me? Do I trust that you will reach out to me when you are also in pain and

struggle so that I can have the opportunity to be supportive? Are we able to
regularly offer and ask for help from each other?