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ndani kyema, My Story - Ray Moore 147
Don’t give advice, offer it!
Don’t associate with ‘toxic’ people. To help someone is to fan the spark of life into
a flame - not to let the living dead eat you up. It means the same thing.
These are the people who drain you of energy instead of enriching you; the people
who leave you feeling worse after being with them than before; they are consistently
negative, complaining, needy, manipulative people who can turn a happy day into
misery. In counseling they never seem to get anywhere, yet they tell you often how
much they need you and how much you are helping. You then feel guilty or a failure
if you ask them not to make any further appointments.
The best way to deal with toxic people is to not deal with them at all; to avoid them. In
some cases it may not be an option, but more often than not, it is. It is common to
think you have to deal with someone, when you actually do not. It is also common to
believe you can get a toxic person to change while interacting with them. My
experience is that it usually doesn’t work in the long run.
Be generous and wise with your love. I have learnt a lot about love. Just read
this story again!
And finally, I have learnt that learning never stops. Each day I learn something
new, sometimes trivial, sometimes life changing. Now, more than ever, I am enjoying
the journey.
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Don’t give advice, offer it!
Don’t associate with ‘toxic’ people. To help someone is to fan the spark of life into
a flame - not to let the living dead eat you up. It means the same thing.
These are the people who drain you of energy instead of enriching you; the people
who leave you feeling worse after being with them than before; they are consistently
negative, complaining, needy, manipulative people who can turn a happy day into
misery. In counseling they never seem to get anywhere, yet they tell you often how
much they need you and how much you are helping. You then feel guilty or a failure
if you ask them not to make any further appointments.
The best way to deal with toxic people is to not deal with them at all; to avoid them. In
some cases it may not be an option, but more often than not, it is. It is common to
think you have to deal with someone, when you actually do not. It is also common to
believe you can get a toxic person to change while interacting with them. My
experience is that it usually doesn’t work in the long run.
Be generous and wise with your love. I have learnt a lot about love. Just read
this story again!
And finally, I have learnt that learning never stops. Each day I learn something
new, sometimes trivial, sometimes life changing. Now, more than ever, I am enjoying
the journey.
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