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By Lana Paul, Lighting The Way Certi ed Grief Recovery Specialist
Lighting the Way through
Social Distancing
We are getting close to three months of some version of social distancing. I am curious if it has taken a toll on your relationships? Some relationships may remain strong, but many have changed. I would bet we all have witnessed shifting and changing. Some I know have giv- en up their jobs and moved closer to extended families. Others have withdrawn from their social circles. Over and over though I hear stories of the desire for things to return to normal, at least for our social connections.
The feelings we experience as a result of these changes is called grief. We all know that feeling when a friend or loved one dies. We can easily identify that as grief. I would love for you to consider expanding your de nition and your awareness of your feelings as it relates to a change of any kind.
And along with your willingness to expand your aware- ness, let’s talk about comparing losses. From certain perspectives, I would guess some could make an argu- ment that this loss is bigger than that loss. What if we were to simply stop making these comparisons? How would it feel to believe that a high school senior’s loss is felt at 100%, at least in their world? We could make comparisons to other graduating classes but that would be like comparing 2 pieces of fruit, an apple and an orange, the same species but very different.
How about not being with a loved one when they were dying because of the restrictions. I could imagine feeling an enormous amount of grief over this. Does it compare to the high school senior’s loss? It is apples and oranges and to each individual potentially devastating.
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