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decisions about money for themselves. Some experts on wealth creation say that you should take big risks, while others advise you to minimize them. Some say that it's a waste of money to buy a latte at a coffee shop every morning, but I say that if you truly savor that latte, and it helps you create an abundance of positive feelings, then that might be an excellent investment for you. Someone else might find that they create an abundance of positivity when they make their own coffee at home and carry it with them to the office, saving $3.75 a day and spending that money on something else that's important to them. I think that's terrific.
The book The Millionaire Next Door debunks a lot of myths about how millionaires supposedly live, and in my own experience, I've found that, indeed, some millionaires shop at Wal-Mart and buy their cars used. Never feel that you have to spend your money a particular way just because others say you do. I was amused to hear a friend of mine tell me that she bought her child used underwear and pajamas at a private school's rummage sale. She was thrilled to find nearly new, designer-brand boxer shorts for him for ten cents a piece, and she laughed when she overheard someone walking by muttering, "I would never buy used underwear!" She told me, "You know, that brand sells for $10.50 a pair, so I don't care what anyone else says, I feel great that I found such a bargain!" It takes confidence to stand by your own values regardless of what others say, but it's important to be true to them.
Then, too, if you truly treasure your spouse, your business partner, your roommates, or other important people in your life, honor their values as much as you do your own. One of my clients had a fairly high tolerance for risk, and she wanted an expensive, luxurious vehicle to drive. She really hoped to buy one car in particular and felt confident that her husband, who was up for a formal review at work in a few months and facing a possible promotion, would soon increase his income. If that happened, the car she wanted would be affordable for them.
However, her husband didn't have a high tolerance for risk. Much as he respected her desire for the expensive car, he didn't want to feel pressured to commit to a large monthly payment for it. Because their old car wasn't reliable or safe, the couple had to make a decision before knowing whether the promotion would come through. My client honored her husband's values by being