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be wondered at that educated men who were God fearing could go that far

wrong and keep on the wrong path for so many years. Even when a low intensity
civil war broke out it was no real concern for them! Does not matter for their
own horrible children are at university or somewhere safe. Other parents'

children will maintain law and order in the danger zones. We will betray

Rhodesia for a few crumbs from England and other African despots and feel good
about it! Or invade Angola with a totally unprepared Army! Prime Minister John
Vorster was played like badly tuned violin played by the black leaders. They

asked him to invade and he did and we reaped the benefits as they hoped. No

one said thank you and South Africa became the skunk of the world overnight.
It's pathetic how naive they really were."

What about the first night then? I am asked sometimes if a marriage must
be consummated to be lawful and the answer is no. Not in our laws but it may

be different where you are. I know that Germanic law has a different opinion on
this. Nor does your bride need to be a virgin or you for that matter or you need

to have sex on the first night (wedding night). It has nothing to do with the
formalities of marriage and is only tradition or culture. In countries where this is

still enforced it created other problems as we will see later on.

Legally you are married the moment that the marriage officer declare you

husband and wife. What happens afterwards in bed is irrelevant but sex is a big

deal in marriage. Logically a blanket refusal to intercourse is a ground for
divorce. So is impotency but that would make the marriage voidable. This brings
us to the question if the man should reveal that he cannot perform, perhaps

because of a war wound or other reasons, before marriage? The answer is yes.

Some of course uses this as an excuse to make sure before the marriage which
is sort of funny but not per se illegal if it is consensual.

Secondly, a spouse is always entitled to visit his wife when in hospital or in jail.
That can never be refused but of course controlled with visiting hours etc. As

such a doctor is able to explain what her medical condition is without breaking
patient privilege to a husband. He can insist to know and give permission for

operations or medical treatment on her behalf if she cannot. Note this is not

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