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Time Out! Exercise - How Would I Handle This? When most people think about discipline, they think
How would you handle this situation if they were your kids? about punishment. But discipline is actually the
If you find yourself feeling out of Situation I Would... practice of teaching people to obey a set of rules Parenting
control, angry and lashing out at your EXAMPLE: Talk with Paul’s teachers, see for ways to behave. Punishment is one way we use No. 5
kids, physically get out of their space, Scenario what’s going on and what’s to correct behavior that doesn’t follow the rules.
go to another room and calm down. Paul, who’s 8, has gotten in trou- changed. Give Paul ideas Discipline is helping kids show the right behavior
for dealing with bullies, ask
ble for fighting at school. He is him how his brother must for the right reasons. Your job as a parent is to help
Agree on the rules and consequences also pushing around his younger feel. Get him to talk about the
with your spouse or partner ahead of brother around at home. issue instead of hitting his raise your children to have self-discipline, or be
time. Show kids you are both going to brother. able to discipline themselves when they become
enforce the rules. Scenario adults. Giving kids boundaries and rules protects them from harm, and helps
Learn to pick your battles. There are 3-year old Anna is refusing to go them learn responsibility. Your biggest challenge is in setting reasonable rules
times where you need to let go of the to bed. She is running around and consequences for your children as they grow. Kids aren’t perfect, so you also
and driving you crazy. You are
rules and start over. Everyone needs a tired and just want her to calm need to know when it’s time to relax a rule or two and just let it go. Discipline gets
do-over, you as well as your kids. down and go to bed. easier when you show love and respect for your child.
Scenario Reality Check... Here are some guidelines for discipline:
Try This at Jeff, who’s 15, is talking back and Set the rules you expect your
refusing to do his chores.
children to follow. Let your kids
Home... know what you expect, and what the Disciplining Kids
8 NEVER hit your child in anger. consequences are if the rules are
Scenario
Try to catch your child “being 5-year old Leo is throwing a 8 Yelling and shouting at your broken.
good.” It can be as simple as tantrum in the store because he children doesn’t help change Rules should be based on your
helping a little brother put away wants a treat while his 2-year old their behavior. child’s age and ability. You can’t
his toys or getting homework done sister is in the cart crying be-
without being asked. Give them a cause she’s tired. 8 Give positive attention and expect a 3-year old to pick up their
simple reward - a special treat, 5 Scenario praise to your kids - “catch room the same way you would expect
minutes extra time before bed, a walk You just caught 12 year old Todd them being good.” it from a 6-year old or a 10-year old.
with Dad to the park, or 15 minutes with candy he stole from the 8 Set your rules and be Rules and consequences need to
extra time on curfew. See what convenience store. consistent on enforcing them. change as kids grow.
happens. Compliment and praise good
8 How you discipline will behavior. Kids want your attention. If
change based on the age of you only give it when they are acting
Disclaimer: your child. out, then your kids will act out.
Learnovation®, LLC’s mission is to empower people to improve 8 Children learn how to behave Be consistent. Make sure you
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intended to address individual parenting issues, nor should it be sure you are setting a good on the rules and enforce them
taken as legal, personal, or other advise. example for your kids. the same.
