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Social Media Musings – Part III My Reflections on the Practice and Life
not to listen to understand. If you want to develop deep, meaningful relationships, listen carefully, completely and wholly.
At some point, we will ease out of this pandemic and return to normal, or at least to a new normal. Our clients, our colleagues and our contacts will remember how we treated them during the pandemic. Let’s all make sure they will have pleasant memories.
One positive comment from you to another can change their day for the better. Change lives today.
Doing the small things well will result in doing the big things well. Cutting corners on the small things will lead to bad results with the big things.
The relationship precedes the referral.
Surround yourself with others who do three things: (1) imagine; (2) plan; (3) work hard.
A good listener doesn’t simply listen to what was said. He listens to what was meant.
I have a rule of thumb when it comes to relationships - each of us has something
or someone we value, love, cherish, and live for, and we love talking about that person
or thing to others. If we want others to hear about what matters to us, we have to listen to them when they talk about what matters to them.
Listen to others and remember what they say. That’s the key to relationships.
Surround yourself with people who do, not talk.
Don’t wait to be asked. Ask.
Good listeners are the best leaders.
You can’t control other lawyers’ behavior. You can control your response.
Read. I read at least a book a week. Books on the practice. Books on leadership. Books on self improvement. I’ll make time for novels, poetry, biographies. Reading is a superpower. It makes you a better lawyer, better friend, and better person.
In these times, let’s all be understanding if opposing counsel, a witness, court reporter or anyone else wants to reschedule.
In meetings, really listen to the ideas and opinions of others. You already know what you know. By listening to others and being open to their ideas, you grow your field of knowledge.
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