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Ensure that your short term goals are feeder goals to your medium term targets, and likewise
your medium term goals are feeder goals to your long term targets.

Goals can be separated into:
· Go up goals

· Give up goals
· Deficiency goals

Go Up Goals
These are primarily growth goals, something you wish to attain – a new job, promotion, personal
development, studying new subjects, becoming an author. They are goals that when achieved
will move you upwards in your life – towards being the person you wish to become, doing the
things you want to do and having what you desire in life.

In an ideal world, everyone you know would support you in these goals, but the sad fact is that
your friends and family may try to prevent you attaining your goals (sometimes knowingly).
People who know you may either not want to see you fail or get hurt, stating such things like
“Don’t bother trying, then you won’t have to deal with failing”, or “Are you sure?”
Indeed, some may deliberately or secretly wish to sabotage your efforts, because they actually
have a vested personal interest in keeping you where you are now. They could become jealous
of you achieving the things you set out to do, or perhaps couldn’t cope with the dynamics of a
friendship where you have clear boundaries and don’t allow them to influence what you do
any more. Some will be happier with your less accomplishing self because they feel threatened
or insecure by your newfound success and achievement.
The moral is very simple – be extremely selective about who you choose to share your ‘go-up’
goals with. Share them with people who absolutely have your best interests at heart, and are
willing to support, help and motivate you in the achievement of your ‘go-up’ goals.
Give Up Goals
These encompass such things as becoming a non smoker, losing weight, reducing alcohol
intake, excessive spending, victim or caretaker type behaviours – basically ridding yourself of
destructive habits.
It’s a good idea to let everyone know your ‘give-up’ goals, or ideally a friend who shares the
goal so you can encourage each other. If you want to give up smoking, the more people you
know, the more likely it is that someone will be around to keep you to your goal-plan when you
get the urge to light up.

Deficiency Goals
These are the ones that only become goals when something is taken away from you, or when
you realise not having this has an extreme detrimental effect on your life and happiness. For
example – your health. Many people take their health for granted, eating and drinking exactly
what they want, not taking supplements, not exercising, not getting regular medical check-ups
etc. The attitude is, “I’ll start my fitness campaign tomorrow” and tomorrow never comes. But
one day the heart attack comes, and assuming they survive, health becomes their no 1 priority –
it never got a look in before!

Be Specific
It is important from the outset that you be as specific and detailed as you can regarding what
you want. With a definite, specific goal, you can more accurately visualise exactly what it is that
will make you happy, and more likely to attract it into your life with the appropriate action.