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Outside Influence
“You’ll never do that” “You’re expecting too much” You’ll set yourself up for disappointment”
“Don’t set you’re sights too high then you won’t get hurt”. The limiting belief here is to be
influenced by the limited beliefs of others, however well intended.
To identify a limiting belief a useful exercise is to ask yourself a series of questions :
· “Who are you being right now?”

· “What is holding you back?”
· “If your life was perfect right now, what would you be doing?

· “What has brought you to this point?”
Having identified the limiting belief, you can challenge it internally and create a better one.
There will be plenty of evidence to support the new belief, considering it is more likely to lead to
the positive outcome that the limited belief is obstructing. To overcome barriers to your progress,
a systematic series of questions will lead to better formed outcomes. Ask yourself :

· “What do I really want from this right now?” “When, where and with whom do I want this?”
· “What will I hear, see and feel when I achieve this?”

· “Am I in charge of the changes?”
· “Will I lose anything when I achieve this outcome?” “Is the outcome worth the effort?”

· “What life consequences will the outcome bring?”
Common Irrational Beliefs
· It is essential for me to be loved or approved by almost everyone for virtually everything I
do.
· I should be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in everything.

· Some people are bad, wicked, and they should be severely punished.
· It is terrible when things are not going the way I want them to go.

· My happiness is externally caused I no ability to control my sorrow or rid myself of negative
feelings.

· If something scares me, I should be pre-occupied with it and upset about it.
· It is easier to avoid facing my life difficulties and responsibilities than to undertake more
rewarding forms of self-discipline.
· My past is all-important. Because something once strongly affected my life, it should
indefinitely do so.

· People and things should be different from the way that they are, and it is shattering if
perfect solutions to the grim realities of life are not immediately found.

· Maximum human happiness can be achieved by inactivity and inaction or by passively
"enjoying myself."

· I should always feel happy, confident, and in control of my emotions.
· I must never fail or make a mistake.

· People will not love and accept me as a flawed and vulnerable human being.
· I need everybody’s approval to be worthwhile.
· If I’m not loved, then life is not worth living.