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          DANIELLE TAYLOR
      I

           cannot remember a lot about my childhood
           but I know my life began in difficult circum-
           stances. Flash backs, physical sensations,
           memories and feelings come back to me
       randomly. I grew up in an abusive household,
       my dad left before I was two and I had various
       step-dads that were violent and psychologically
       abusive towards my mum and I. Memories of
       seeing my mum strangled and beaten with an
       adult training shoe, while literally being thrown
       into a room as a toddler are some of the memo-             Memories of seeing my mum

 effort to determine a need for medication, in some   In closing, as I stated above, there are other ques-  ries I carry from my past. But as my mum suf-  strangled and beaten with
 cases, I recommend a psychiatric evaluation and this   tions that are asked by patients, and the questions   fered abuse, she began to take her stress out   an adult training shoe, while
 is often done when the moods identified above are   that I provided above are, the ones most often asked   on me. I remember when she chased me into   literally being thrown into a
 reported to be intense and disruptive in the person’s   of me by patients. Furthermore, by candidly answer-  the room as she screamed and shouted while
 daily functioning. Finally, if the symptoms reported   ing their questions, in a way that’s most understand-  I escaped to my top bunk bed and cowered in   room as a toddler are some of
 interfere with the person’s ability to effectively carry   able to the patient, often leaves them feeling safe   fear in the corner. She grabbed me by my hair,   the memories I carry from my
 out the requirements of their job, I will place them on   and comfortable and encourages more transparency   dragging me off the top bed, sadly the mem-  past.
 a leave from work, for a period of, one to two weeks.  and security during future sessions.   ory of her beating me consistently ad I cried
       and scream still bothers me. No eight-year-old
       child should experience that kind of treatment.

 How Do I Get in Touch with You After Business Hours   Dr. Tanya Martin,  At eleven I had ‘suicide attempts’, holding my   adults as a child and survived, it made me fear-
 or In Case of An Emergency?  Clinical Psychologist  breath until I passed out, when that didn’t work   less. But as they punched and kicked me I felt
 This is an important question because, after opening   I started to slice my wrists during my early teen   a deep rage rising inside me, I released it and
 up and sharing their innermost thoughts, feelings   years.    fought back and that’s when things changed.
 and concerns, it has been my experience that many             I was tired of being a victim, so I attacked life
 patients want to maintain a sense of connection and   Summary:   Teen rebellion had taken a hold of me and I   in full force and won. The more I fought back,
 security. Therefore, it is not unusual for them to ask   Dr. Tanya Martin is a Clinical Psychologist,   shoplifted to gain popularity. I also became   I was warned not to get ‘cocky’ or ‘think I was
 for an after-hours or emergency contact number. As   Author and Certified Imago Relationship   familiar with alcohol, smoked weed and lied to   anything’ and the more they fought back at
 a result, most therapists will advise them to call 911   Therapist. She also works as a Psychologist   my mum about where I was going. I wanted to   me, their numbers grew. I skipped school and
 in the case of an emergency or to go to the nearest   at Apex Behavioral Health in Dearborn, Mich-  escape, perhaps destroy my worthless self. I   left without any qualifications, despite being
 emergency room/hospital. They are also encouraged   igan where she provides therapy, along with,   stood up for people who couldn’t stand up for   ahead in all of my classes.
 to call the clinic and leave a message.  a myriad of mental health services to adults.   themselves at school. This got the attention of   Later in life the inevitable happened, I lost my
 She also serves as the Chair, on the Board of   the local ‘hardcase’ girl gang, who made it their   step-grandad to cancer. However, I still had my
 Trustees, at the Michigan School of Psychol-                  nanna around. She was a beautiful, loving, nur-
 ogy (her alma mater).  mission to destroy me arranging fights and   turing and supportive force in my life. My part-
       luring me into places alone to gang up on me. I
       got into a log of physical fights but I didn’t care,    ner and I married and my nanna was beside
       I was unafraid. Once you have been beaten by            me at the top table, my parents were there too
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