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the next week she made an appointment with a marriage
counselor. After three sessions, the counselor called Pete
and asked if he would be willing to come in to talk about his
perspective on their marriage. Pete agreed, and the
process of healing began. Six months later, they left the
counselor’s office with a new marriage.

I said to Pete and Patsy, “What did you learn in counseling
that turned your marriage around?”
“In essence, Dr. Chapman,” Pete said, “we learned to
speak each other’s love language. The counselor did not
use that term, but as you gave the lecture today, the lights
came on. My mind raced back to our counseling
experience, and I realized that’s exactly what happened to
us. We finally learned to speak each other’s love language.”
“So what is your love language, Pete?” I asked.
“Physical touch,” he said without hesitation.
“Physical touch for sure,” said Patsy.
“And yours, Patsy?”
“Quality time, Dr. Chapman. That’s what I was crying
for in those days while he was spending all his time with his
job and his computer.”
“How did you learn that physical touch was Pete’s love
language?”
“It took a while,” Patsy said. “Little by little, it began to
come out in the counseling. At first, I don’t think Pete even