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didn’t cross my mind. I was preparing meals, keeping the
house clean, doing his laundry, and trying to stay out of his
way. I honestly didn’t know what else I could be doing. I
could not understand his withdrawal or his lack of attention
to me. It’s not that I dislike touching; it’s just that it was never
that important to me. Spending time with me is what made
me feel loved and appreciated, giving me attention. It really
didn’t matter whether we hugged or kissed. As long as he
gave me his attention, I felt loved.
“It took us a long time to discover the root of the
problem, but once we discovered that we were not meeting
each other’s emotional need for love, we began to turn
things around. Once I began to take the initiative in giving
him physical touch, it’s amazing what happened. His
personality, his spirit changed drastically. I had a new
husband. Once he became convinced that I really did love
him, then he began to become more responsive to my
needs.”
“Does he still have a computer at home?” I asked.
“Yes,” she said, “but he seldom uses it and when he
does, it’s all right because I know that he is not ‘married’ to
the computer. We do so many things together that it’s easy
for me to give him the freedom to use the computer when
he wants to.”
“What amazed me at the seminar today,” Pete said,
“was the way your lecture on love languages carried me
back all these years to that experience. You said in twenty
minutes what it took us six months to learn.”