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At its peak, the “in love” experience is euphoric. We
are emotionally obsessed with each other. We go to sleep
thinking of one another. When we rise that person is the
first thought on our minds. We long to be together.
Spending time together is like playing in the anteroom of
heaven. When we hold hands, it seems as if our blood
flows together. We could kiss forever if we didn’t have to go
to school or work. Embracing stimulates dreams of
marriage and ecstasy.
The person who is “in love” has the illusion that his
beloved is perfect. His mother can see the flaws but he
can’t. His mother says, “Darling, have you considered she
has been under psychiatric care for five years?” But he
replies, “Oh, Mother, give me a break. She’s been out for
three months now.” His friends also can see the flaws but
are not likely to tell him unless he asks, and chances are he
won’t because in his mind she is perfect and what others
think doesn’t matter.
Our dreams before marriage are of marital bliss: “We
are going to make each other supremely happy. Other
couples may argue and fight, but not us. We love each
other.” Of course, we are not totally naive. We know
intellectually that we will eventually have differences. But we
are certain that we will discuss those differences openly;
one of us will always be willing to make concessions, and
we will reach agreement. It’s hard to believe anything else