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words and ask ourselves, How could I have been so
foolish?
Welcome to the real world of marriage, where hairs
are always on the sink and little white spots cover the
mirror, where arguments center on which way the toilet
paper comes off and whether the lid should be up or down.
It is a world where shoes do not walk to the closet and
drawers do not close themselves, where coats do not like
hangers and socks go AWOL during laundry. In this world,
a look can hurt and a word can crush. Intimate lovers can
become enemies, and marriage a battlefield.
What happened to the “in love” experience? Alas, it
was but an illusion by which we were tricked into signing
our names on the dotted line, for better or for worse. No
wonder so many have come to curse marriage and the
partner whom they once loved. After all, if we were
deceived, we have a right to be angry. Did we really have
the “real” thing? I think so. The problem was faulty
information.
The bad information was the idea that the “in love”
obsession would last forever. We should have known
better. A casual observation should have taught us that if
people remained obsessed, we would all be in serious
trouble. The shock waves would rumble through business,
industry, church, education, and the rest of society. Why?
Because people who are “in love” lose interest in other
pursuits. That is why we call it “obsession.” The college
student who falls head over heels in love sees his grades