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Love Language #2

QUALITY TIME

I should have picked up on Betty Jo’s primary love
language from the beginning. What was she saying on that
spring night when I visited her and Bill in Little Rock? “Bill is
a good provider, but he doesn’t spend any time with me.
What good is the house and the recreational vehicle and all
the other things if we don’t ever enjoy them together?” What
was her desire? Quality time with Bill. She wanted his
attention. She wanted him to focus on her, to give her time,
to do things with her.
By “quality time,” I mean giving someone your
undivided attention. I don’t mean sitting on the couch
watching television together. When you spend time that
way, ABC or NBC has your attention—not your spouse.
What I mean is sitting on the couch with the TV off, looking
at each other and talking, giving each other your undivided
attention. It means taking a walk, just the two of you, or
going out to eat and looking at each other and talking. Have
you ever noticed that in a restaurant, you can almost always
tell the difference between a dating couple and a married