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Discipline: The Case

For and Against

Time-Out

By Rifka Schonfeld, Director of S.O.S.
(Strategies For Optimum Success)

Spanking. forms of discipline. Here are some guide-
Yelling. ůŝŶĞƐ ǁŚĞŶ ĞŶĨŽƌĐŝŶŐ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ͘
Time out.
Connect and redirect. ͻ Separate͘ tŚĞŶ ŶĞŐĂƟǀĞ ďĞŚĂǀ-
ior occurs, the parent should take the
Discipline has changed over the years. Fif- ĐŚŝůĚ ǁĂLJ ĨƌŽŵ ƚŚĞ ƐŝƚƵĂƟŽŶ ĂŶĚ ƉůĂĐĞ
ty years ago, parents hit their children. the child in a separate area. This area
Some parents yelled at their children, need not be in another room.
and most recently parents give their chil- ͻ Explain. In as few words as possi-
ĚƌĞŶ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ͘ ƌ͘ ĂŶŝĞů ^ŝĞŐĞů͕ ŝŶ ŚŝƐ ble, explain what the child did to earn the
new book No Drama Discipline, argues ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ͘ &Žƌ ŝŶƐƚĂŶĐĞ͕ DŽƐŚĞ͛Ɛ ŵŽƚŚĞƌ
Bulletin
ĂŐĂŝŶƐƚ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ ĂŶĚ ĨŽƌ ĚŝīĞƌĞŶƚ ŵĞƚŚ- ŵŝŐŚƚ ƐĂLJ͕ ͞EŽ ŚŝƫŶŐ͟ Žƌ ͞ ŽŶ͛ƚ Śŝƚ͘͟
ods of discipline. ͻ Set a Ɵme͘ ƌĞĂƐŽŶĂďůĞ ĂŵŽƵŶƚ
ŽĨ ƟŵĞ ŝƐ ƚŚĞ ĐŚŝůĚ͛Ɛ ĂŐĞ ŝŶ ŵŝŶƵƚĞƐ͘ &Žƌ
The Case For Time Out ĞdžĂŵƉůĞ͕ ŝĨ ƚŚĞ ĐŚŝůĚ ŝƐ ƚŚƌĞĞ͕ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ
should be three minutes.
tŚŝůĞ Ăƚ ĚŝīĞƌĞŶƚ ƉŽŝŶƚƐ ƚŚĞƌĞ ŝƐ ŶĞŐĂƟǀĞ ͻ on͛t aƩenĚ. Once the child is in
ƉƌĞƐƐ ƐƵƌƌŽƵŶĚŝŶŐ ƚŚĞ ƵƐĞ ŽĨ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚƐ͕ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ͕ ƚŚĞ ƉĂƌĞŶƚ ƐŚŽƵůĚ ĂǀŽŝĚ ĞLJĞ
many psychologists and educators be- contact and not speak to the child. Time
ůŝĞǀĞ ƚŚĂƚ ǁŚĞŶ ƵƐĞĚ ĐŽƌƌĞĐƚůLJ͕ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ ŽƵƚ ŝƐ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ ĨƌŽŵ ƚŚĞ ƉĂƌĞŶƚƐ ĂŶĚ
ĐĂŶ ďĞ ĞīĞĐƟǀĞ ĂŶĚ ǀĂůƵĂďůĞ͘ ĐĐŽƌĚŝŶŐ ƚŚĞ ƌĞƐƚ ŽĨ ƚŚĞ ĂĐƟŽŶ ŚĂƉƉĞŶŝŶŐ ŝŶ ƚŚĞ
to psychologist Daniela Owen at the San house.
&ƌĂŶĐŝƐĐŽ ĂLJ ĞŶƚĞƌ ĨŽƌ ŽŐŶŝƟǀĞ dŚĞƌ- ͻ Embrace͘ tŚĞŶ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ ŝƐ ŽǀĞƌ͕
ĂƉLJ͕ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚƐ ŝŶĐƌĞĂƐĞĚ ĐŽŵƉůŝĂŶĐĞ ĂŶĚ ͞ƟŵĞ ŝŶ͟ ďĞŐŝŶƐ͘ WĂƌĞŶƚƐ ƐŚŽƵůĚ ŚƵŐ
ƉŽƐŝƟǀĞ ďĞŚĂǀŝŽƌ ĨĂƌ ŵŽƌĞ ƚŚĂŶ ŽƚŚĞƌ their child and let them know that they

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