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your children’s ability to maŬe good deci- One method that Siegel suggests to use
sions, thinŬ about others, and act in ways ĨŽƌ ĚŝƐĐŝƉůŝŶĞ͕ ŝŶƐƚĞĂĚ ŽĨ ƟŵĞ ŽƵƚ͕ ŝƐ ͞ĐŽŶ-
that prepare them for lifelong success ŶĞĐƚ ĂŶĚ ƌĞĚŝƌĞĐƚ͘͟ dŚŝƐ ŝƐ ŚŽǁ ͞ĐŽŶŶĞĐƚ
and happiness. ĂŶĚ ƌĞĚŝƌĞĐƚ͟ ǁŽƌŬƐ͗ /Ĩ LJŽƵƌ ĞŝŐŚƚͲLJĞĂƌͲ
ŽůĚ ŝƐ ƚŚƌŽǁŝŶŐ Ă Įƚ ďĞĐĂƵƐĞ ŚĞ ĐĂŶ͛ƚ
,Ğ ĞdžƉůĂŝŶƐ ƚŚĂƚ LJŽƵƌ ƉĂƌĞŶƟŶŐ ǁŝůů ŶŽƚ ďĞůŝĞǀĞ ŚŝƐ ďŝƌƚŚĚĂLJ ŝƐŶ͛ƚ ĨŽƌ ĂŶŽƚŚĞƌ ϴ
ŽŶůLJ ďĞ ĞīĞĐƟǀĞ͕ ďƵƚ LJŽƵƌ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ǁŝůů months, chances are that he is experi-
ĐƌĞĂƚĞ ŵŽƌĞ ĐŽŶŶĞĐƟŽŶƐ ŝŶ ƚŚĞŝƌ ďƌĂŝŶƐ ĞŶĐŝŶŐ Ă ůŽƚ ŽĨ ƌŝŐŚƚ ďƌĂŝŶ ;ĞŵŽƟŽŶĂů Žƌ
ĂŶĚ ƚŚĞƌĞĨŽƌĞ ďƵŝůĚ ƐƚƌŽŶŐĞƌ ĞŵŽƟŽŶ- ŝůůŽŐŝĐĂů ĂĐƟǀŝƚLJͿ͘ ZĂƚŚĞƌ ƚŚĂŶ ƌĞƐƉŽŶĚ-
Ăů ĂŶĚ ƐŽĐŝĂů ƐŬŝůůƐ͘ WĂƌƚ ŽĨ ŚŝƐ ŵĞƚŚŽĚ ŝƐ ŝŶŐ ƚŽ LJŽƵƌ ĐŚŝůĚ ǁŝƚŚ ůŽŐŝĐĂů ƋƵĞƐƟŽŶƐ͕
based on the fact that the word discipline which he will not be able to hear because
ĐŽŵĞƐ ĨƌŽŵ ƚŚĞ >ĂƟŶ ǁŽƌĚ ͞ƚŽ ƚĞĂĐŚ͘͟ ŚĞ ŝƐ ŝŶ ƚŚĞ ŵŝĚƐƚ ŽĨ Ă ǁĂǀĞ ŽĨ ĞŵŽƟŽŶ-
Discipline is about teaching, not punish- Ăů ƚŚŝŶŬŝŶŐ͕ ƌĞĂĐƚ ƚŽ Śŝŵ ǁŝƚŚ ĞŵŽƟŽŶƐ͘
ment or consequences. ,ŽůĚ Śŝŵ ƟŐŚƚ ĂŶĚ ƚĞůů Śŝŵ ƚŚĂƚ LJŽƵ ƵŶ-
ĚĞƌƐƚĂŶĚ ŚŽǁ ĨƌƵƐƚƌĂƟŶŐ ƚŚĂƚ ŵŝŐŚƚ ďĞ͘
ĂŶŝĞů ^ŝĞŐĞů ĂƌŐƵĞĚ ĂŐĂŝŶƐƚ ƟŵĞŽƵƚƐ Once he is able to calm down, then you
ƐĂLJŝŶŐ ƚŚĂƚ ƟŵĞŽƵƚƐ ƚĞĂĐŚ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ƚŚĂƚ help him work through the problem log-
when they are struggling they are on ŝĐĂůůLJ͘ /Ŷ ƚŚŝƐ ǁĂLJ͕ LJŽƵ ĂƌĞ ĐŽŶŶĞĐƟŶŐ ƚŽ
their own and do not have parents to Śŝŵ ƚŚƌŽƵŐŚ ŚŝƐ ůĞŌ ďƌĂŝŶ ;ĞŵŽƟŽŶƐͿ ĂŶĚ
help them. Instead, he says that parents ƌĞĚŝƌĞĐƟŶŐ ŚŝƐ ĞŵŽƟŽŶƐ ƚŚƌŽƵŐŚ ŚŝƐ ƌŝŐŚƚ
Bulletin
ƐŚŽƵůĚ ĂƐŬ ƚŚĞŵƐĞůǀĞƐ ƚŚƌĞĞ ƋƵĞƐƟŽŶƐ ďƌĂŝŶ ;ůŽŐŝĐͿ͘ dŚŝƐ ǁŝůů ŚĞůƉ Śŝŵ ďĞĐŽŵĞ
ďĞĨŽƌĞ ƚŚĞLJ ƌĞƐƉŽŶĚ ƚŽ ŶĞŐĂƟǀĞ ďĞŚĂǀ- ďĞƩĞƌ ŝŶƚĞŐƌĂƚĞĚ ŝŶ ƚŚĞ ĨƵƚƵƌĞ ĂƐ ǁĞůů͘
ior:
ͻ tŚLJ͍ tŚLJ ĚŝĚ ƚŚĞ ĐŚŝůĚ ĂĐƚ ƚŚĂƚ dŚĞ ũƵƌLJ ŝƐ ƐƟůů ŽƵƚ͕ ďƵƚ ŝƚ͛Ɛ ǁŽƌƚŚ ƚŚŝŶŬ-
ǁĂLJ͍ ŝŶŐ ĂďŽƵƚ ĞŝƚŚĞƌ ǁĂLJ ʹ ŝƚ͛Ɛ ǁŽƌƚŚ ƚŚŝŶŬ-
ͻ tŚĂƚ͍ tŚĂƚ ůĞƐƐŽŶ ĚŽ / ǁĂŶƚ ƚŽ ing about discipline as an opportunity to
ƚĞĂĐŚ͍ ƚĞĂĐŚ͘ ŌĞƌ Ăůů͕ ĂƐ ƉĂƌĞŶƚƐ͕ ƚŚĂƚ ŝƐ ŽƵƌ Ɖƌŝ-
ͻ ,Žǁ͍ ,Žǁ ĐĂŶ / ƚĞĂĐŚ ƚŚĂƚ ůĞƐ- mary job!
ƐŽŶ͍
Ŷ ĂĐĐůĂŝŵĞĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƚŽƌ ĂŶĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƟŽŶ ĐŽŶƐƵůƚĂŶƚ͕ DƌƐ͘ ZŝŅĂ ^ĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚ ŚĂƐ ƐĞƌǀĞĚ
ƚŚĞ :ĞǁŝƐŚ ĐŽŵŵƵŶŝƚLJ ĨŽƌ ĐůŽƐĞ ƚŽ ƚŚŝƌƚLJ LJĞĂƌƐ͘ ^ŚĞ ĨŽƵŶĚĞĚ ĂŶĚ ĚŝƌĞĐƚƐ ƚŚĞ ǁŝĚĞůLJ
ĂĐĐůĂŝŵĞĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƟŽŶĂů ƉƌŽŐƌĂŵ͕ ^K^͕ ƐĞƌǀŝĐŝŶŐ Ăůů ŐƌĂĚĞ ůĞǀĞůƐ ŝŶ ƐĞĐƵůĂƌ ĂƐ ǁĞůů ĂƐ
,ĞďƌĞǁ ƐƚƵĚŝĞƐ͘ ŬƌŝĂŚ ĂŶĚ ƌĞĂĚŝŶŐ ƐƉĞĐŝĂůŝƐƚ͕ ƐŚĞ ŚĂƐ ŐŝǀĞŶ ĚLJŶĂŵŝĐ ǁŽƌŬƐŚŽƉƐ
ĂŶĚ ŚĂƐ ƐĞƚ ƵƉ ƌĞĂĚŝŶŐ ůĂďƐ ŝŶ ŵĂŶLJ ƐĐŚŽŽůƐ͘ /Ŷ ĂĚĚŝƟŽŶ͕ ƐŚĞ ŽīĞƌƐ ĞǀĂůƵĂƟŽŶƐ
'͘ ͘ ͘ ƉƌĞƉĂƌĂƟŽŶ͕͕ ƐŽĐŝĂů ƐŬŝůůƐ ƚƌĂŝŶŝŶŐ ĂŶĚ ƐŚŝĚĚƵĐŚ ĐŽĂĐŚŝŶŐ͕ ĨŽĐƵƐŝŶŐ ŽŶ ďƵŝůĚ-
ŝŶŐ ƐĞůĨͲĞƐƚĞĞŵ ĂŶĚ ƐĞůĨͲĂǁĂƌĞŶĞƐƐ͘ ^ŚĞ ĐĂŶ ďĞ ƌĞĂĐŚĞĚ Ăƚ ϳϭϴͲϯϴϮͲϱϰϯϳ Žƌ Ăƚ ƌŝŅĂ-
ƐĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚΛŐŵĂŝů͘ĐŽŵ ͘ zŽƵ ĐĂŶ ǀŝĞǁ ƚŚĞ ǁĞď Ăƚ ƌŝŅĂƐĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚƐŽƐ͘ĐŽŵ͘
ZĞŐŝƐƚĞƌ ŶŽǁ ĨŽƌ Ă DŝŶĚƐĞƚƐ ĂŶĚ , ǁŽƌŬƐŚŽƉ ďLJ ƌ͘ ZŽďĞƌƚ ƌŽŽŬƐ ŽŶ
EŽǀĞŵďĞƌ ϭϯ͕ ϮϬϭϴ͘ WůĞĂƐĞ ĐĂůů DƌƐ͘ ^ĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚ Ăƚ ϳϭϴͲϯϴϮͲϱϰϯϳ ĨŽƌ ŵŽƌĞ ŝŶĨŽ͘
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