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ing those spelling tests on which he did well, that he is ‘wrong’ or that he made a ‘bad’
Žƌ ďLJ ŚĂǀŝŶŐ Śŝŵ ͚ŽǀĞƌŚĞĂƌ͛ Ă ĐŽŶǀĞƌƐĂƟŽŶ ĚĞĐŝƐŝŽŶ͘ dŚĞƐĞ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ĂƌĞ ǀĞƌLJ ƐĞŶƐŝƟǀĞ
you’re having with someone about how ƚŽ ƚŚĞ ŶƵĂŶĐĞƐ ŽĨ ƚŚĞƐĞ ŶĞŐĂƟǀĞ ǁŽƌĚƐ͘ dĞůů
well he did with his music lessons. Next, him that his answer was has some merit, but
the child has to learn to consider the various ƚŽŐĞƚŚĞƌ͕ LJŽƵ ĐĂŶ ŵĂŬĞ ŝƚ ďĞƩĞƌ͘ ůƐŽ͕ ĂůůŽǁ
ƉŽƐƐŝďŝůŝƟĞƐ ƚŚĂƚ ĐĂŶ ŚĞůƉ ŵĂŬĞ Śŝŵ ƐƵĐĐĞƐƐ- ƚŚĞ ĐŚŝůĚ ƚŽ ƉĞƌĨŽƌŵ ƚĂƐŬƐ ĂŶĚ ĞƌƌĂŶĚƐ ƚŚĂƚ
ĨƵů͘ >ŝŬĞ͕ ͞/Ĩ / ĂƐŬ ŵLJ ĨĂƚŚĞƌ ƚŽ ůĞĂƌŶ ǁŝƚŚ ŵĞ ǁŝůů ŵĂŬĞ Śŝŵ ĨĞĞů ŵŽƌĞ ŝŶĚĞƉĞŶĚĞŶƚ ĂŶĚ
ƚŽŶŝŐŚƚ͕ ƚŚĞŶ ŵĂLJďĞ / ĐĂŶ ŐĞƚ Ă ƉƌĞƩLJ ŐŽŽĚ ůĞƐƐ ŚĞůƉůĞƐƐ͘ ^ŝŵƉůĞ ƚŚŝŶŐƐ ůŝŬĞ ŽƌĚĞƌŝŶŐ
ŵĂƌŬ ŽŶ ƚŚĞ ďĞĐŚŝŶĂ ƚŽŵŽƌƌŽǁ͘͟ Kƌ͕ ͞/Ĩ / pizza for the family, being in charge of seat-
ƐƚƵĚLJ ƚŚĞ ĮƌƐƚ ƚǁĞŶƚLJ ĮǀĞ ƐƚĂƚĞƐ ƌĞĂůůLJ ǁĞůů͕ ŝŶŐ ĂƌƌĂŶŐĞŵĞŶƚƐ ĨŽƌ Ă ĨĂŵŝůLJ ŽƵƟŶŐ͕ ĞǀĞŶ
ŵĂLJďĞ / ĐĂŶ Ăƚ ůĞĂƐƚ ŬŶŽǁ ŚĂůĨ ŽĨ ƚŚĞŵ ďLJ ďĂŬŝŶŐ Ă ƐŝŵƉůĞ ďƌŽǁŶŝĞ͕ ĐĂŶ ŚĞůƉ ďƵŝůĚ Ă
ŚĞĂƌƚ͘͟ Kƌ͕ ͞/Ĩ / ĐĂůů ƚŚƌĞĞ ŐŝƌůƐ ŽŶ dƵĞƐĚĂLJ ƚŽ ĐĞƌƚĂŝŶ ĂŵŽƵŶƚ ŽĨ ƐĞůĨͲĐŽŶĮĚĞŶĐĞ͘ ŶĚ
come over on Shabbos, maybe at least one ǁŚĞŶ LJŽƵ ďƵŝůĚ ĐŽŶĮĚĞŶĐĞ ŝŶ ŽŶĞ ĂƌĞĂ͕ ŝƚ ŽĨ-
ŽĨ ƚŚĞŵ ǁŝůů ƐĂLJ LJĞƐ͘͟ dŚŝƐ ŐŝǀĞƐ ƚŚĞ ĐŚŝůĚ Ă ten spills over into other areas as well.
feeling of empowerment, as if he’s actually
doing something that can improve the situ- Are there any children with learned help-
ĂƟŽŶ͘ /ƚ ĂůƐŽ ĂůůŽǁƐ Śŝŵ ƚŽ ƵŶĚĞƌƐƚĂŶĚ ƚŚĂƚ lessness in your classroom or in your family?
ŚĞ ĐĂŶ ƐƵĐĐĞĞĚ ͚ƉĂƌƟĂůůLJ͛ Ăƚ ƐŽŵĞƚŚŝŶŐ͕ ĂŶĚ Watch carefully for some of the tell-tale sig-
ŶŽƚ ƌĞƐŝŐŶ ŚŝŵƐĞůĨ ƚŽ ƚŽƚĂů ĨĂŝůƵƌĞ͘ dŚĞŶ͕ ŚĞ ŶĂůƐ͘ /Ĩ LJŽƵ ƚŚŝŶŬ LJŽƵ͛ǀĞ ĚŝƐĐŽǀĞƌĞĚ ŝƚ͕ ƚŚĞŶ
has to understand that even if he fails to- ŝŶǀĞƐƚ ƚŚĞ ƟŵĞ ĂŶĚ ĞīŽƌƚ ƚŽ ǁŽƌŬ ǁŝƚŚ ƚŚĂƚ
ĚĂLJ͕ ŝƚ͛Ɛ ŶŽƚ ƚŚĞ ĞŶĚ ŽĨ ƚŚĞ ǁŽƌůĚ͘ dŚĞƌĞ ǁŝůů ĐŚŝůĚ ĂŶĚ ƵŶůŽĂĚ ƚŚĞ ŽƉƉƌĞƐƐŝǀĞ ŶĞŐĂƟǀŝƚLJ͘
ĂůǁĂLJƐ ďĞ ŽƚŚĞƌ ŽƉƉŽƌƚƵŶŝƟĞƐ͘ ,Ğ ĐĂŶ ƐƟůů Kƌ͕ ƚĂŬĞ Śŝŵ ƚŽ Ă ƉƌŽĨĞƐƐŝŽŶĂů ǁŚŽ ĐĂŶ ŚĞůƉ
succeed tomorrow. build his feelings of self-worth. Remember
ʹ ƚŚĞƐĞ ŬŝĚƐ ĐĂŶ ďĞ ƚƌĂŶƐĨŽƌŵĞĚ ĂŶĚ ƚŚĞLJ
Ğ ĐĂƌĞĨƵů ǁŝƚŚ LJŽƵƌ ǁŽƌĚƐ͘ dŚŝƐ ŝƐ ƚƌƵĞ can thrive. But they need caring and intu-
ǁŚĞŶ ƐƉĞĂŬŝŶŐ ƚŽ Ăůů ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ͕ ďƵƚ ĞƐƉĞĐŝĂůůLJ ŝƟǀĞ ĂĚƵůƚƐ ƚŽ ŚĞůƉ ƚŚĞŵ͘
so with those who are trying to climb out of
learned helplessness. Avoid telling this child

Ŷ ĂĐĐůĂŝŵĞĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƚŽƌ ĂŶĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƟŽŶ ĐŽŶƐƵůƚĂŶƚ͕ DƌƐ͘ ZŝŅĂ ^ĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚ
ŚĂƐ ƐĞƌǀĞĚ ƚŚĞ :ĞǁŝƐŚ ĐŽŵŵƵŶŝƚLJ ĨŽƌ ĐůŽƐĞ ƚŽ ƚŚŝƌƚLJ LJĞĂƌƐ͘ ^ŚĞ ĨŽƵŶĚĞĚ
ĂŶĚ ĚŝƌĞĐƚƐ ƚŚĞ ǁŝĚĞůLJ ĂĐĐůĂŝŵĞĚ ĞĚƵĐĂƟŽŶĂů ƉƌŽŐƌĂŵ͕ ^K^͕ ƐĞƌǀŝĐŝŶŐ Ăůů
ŐƌĂĚĞ ůĞǀĞůƐ ŝŶ ƐĞĐƵůĂƌ ĂƐ ǁĞůů ĂƐ ,ĞďƌĞǁ ƐƚƵĚŝĞƐ͘ ŬƌŝĂŚ ĂŶĚ ƌĞĂĚŝŶŐ
ƐƉĞĐŝĂůŝƐƚ͕ ƐŚĞ ŚĂƐ ŐŝǀĞŶ ĚLJŶĂŵŝĐ ǁŽƌŬƐŚŽƉƐ ĂŶĚ ŚĂƐ ƐĞƚ ƵƉ ƌĞĂĚŝŶŐ ůĂďƐ
ŝŶ ŵĂŶLJ ƐĐŚŽŽůƐ͘ /Ŷ ĂĚĚŝƟŽŶ͕ ƐŚĞ ŽīĞƌƐ ĞǀĂůƵĂƟŽŶƐ '͘ ͘ ͘ ƉƌĞƉĂƌĂƟŽŶ͕͕
ƐŽĐŝĂů ƐŬŝůůƐ ƚƌĂŝŶŝŶŐ ĂŶĚ ƐŚŝĚĚƵĐŚ ĐŽĂĐŚŝŶŐ͕ ĨŽĐƵƐŝŶŐ ŽŶ ďƵŝůĚŝŶŐ ƐĞůĨͲĞƐͲ
ƚĞĞŵ ĂŶĚ ƐĞůĨͲĂǁĂƌĞŶĞƐƐ͘ ^ŚĞ ĐĂŶ ďĞ ƌĞĂĐŚĞĚ Ăƚ ϳϭϴͲϯϴϮͲϱϰϯϳ Žƌ Ăƚ
ƌŝŅĂƐĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚΛŐŵĂŝů͘ĐŽŵ ͘ zŽƵ ĐĂŶ ǀŝĞǁ ƚŚĞ ǁĞď Ăƚ ƌŝŅĂƐĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚƐŽƐ͘
ĐŽŵ͘

ZĞŐŝƐƚĞƌ ŶŽǁ ĨŽƌ Ă DŝŶĚƐĞƚƐ ĂŶĚ , ǁŽƌŬƐŚŽƉ ďLJ ƌ͘ ZŽďĞƌƚ ƌŽŽŬƐ ŽŶ
EŽǀĞŵďĞƌ ϭϯ͕ ϮϬϭϴ͘ WůĞĂƐĞ ĐĂůů DƌƐ͘ ^ĐŚŽŶĨĞůĚ Ăƚ ϳϭϴͲϯϴϮͲϱϰϯϳ ĨŽƌ ŵŽƌĞ ŝŶĨŽ͘

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