Page 41 - EAP Manual

Core Mindfulness NJS Continued...
 WhendecidingifNon-judgmentalStancemaybehelpful,ask: 1.) Is this judgment hurtful or helpful?
2.) Does it work for me?
3.) Does it work for others?
4.) Does it work in my environment—at home or at school?
 When I use Non-judgmental Stance, I will: o pause & ask the ?s above
o stick to the facts
o use neutral, non-blaming language that doesn’t suggest + or - o separate the person from action
 Myteacherismeanvs.WhenMr.Smithgivestheclassasurprisequiz,I feel stressed out.
 Jane is stupid vs. When Jane doesn’t text me back, I feel upset o listen to what others want
o separate my wants from the facts
o look at the end-game
o accept things as they are without clinging to what I want
o feel calmer & more accepting
37 | P a g e