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RELATIONSHIP

Rescue

RELATIONSHIP

Rescue

YOU CAN’T

LOVE ANYONE

Until You Love

Yourself !

ll of us at some point and time want to be loved by some-
body other than our Mothers. So many of us try to fill that
gap by getting into romantic relationships which more of-
ten than not, fail miserably because we go there looking
Afor something that we don’t already have -- love. Loving
yourself is absolutely essential if you want to sustain a romantic relation-
ship with anyone else. But that can be especially difficult if you’ve been
through an abusive childhood or past traumatic situations. These unfor-
tunate events usually cause us to question ourselves and our worthiness
of love in the first place. By following a few tips and a little work you
will realize how easy and rewarding loving yourself can be. In turn, you
will be attracting a lasting mate who finds your confidence absolutely
irresistible.
There are many things which can be a turn off to the opposite sex, bad
breath, and vulgar language, are just a few examples. But the number one
thing that is unattractive across the board is low self-esteem. Low self-
esteem comes from low self-love. No one wants to be around someone
who doesn’t love themselves, that’s because an LSeP (low self-esteem
person) has no love to offer anyone else and will start trying to suck the
love out of everyone around them. Being in a relationship with an LSeP
is usually one sided and leaves the other person feeling drained, this of-
ten leads to breakup. You can’t give something you don’t have and that
includes love. Since loving yourself is so imperative, I’ve offered some
Jenniifer C. Charles, MS, BCBA tips below to get you on the way to loving yourself:
Make a list of all the wonderful things about yourself. This may seem a
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