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THE GREAT

PRE-WEDDING

WAR HOW TO HANDLE THE CONFLICT

WHEN PLANNING YOUR WEDDING

theme, or your fiancé invited someone you There’s no greater feeling than being a new-
simply can’t stand, there’s bound to be some ly-engaged fiancé. The feelings excitement
kind of disagreement at some stage during and thrill are at an all time high, the com-
the preparations. The most important thing bination of adrenaline and anticipation are
when these situations arise, and this applies being stirred around like debris in a tornado.
to when you’re both married as well, is that On top of that, you’re probably as nervous
you communicate in a healthy way. as a slug in a salt mine, you’re most likely a
bit edgy to say the least, and it’s not uncom-
It’s vital to speak your mind as soon as you mon for couples to get a bit snippy with one
disagree with something. Sweeping it under another.
the rug isn’t going to solve anything. In fact,
ignoring your difference in opinion will sim- “Snippy” may be a bit of an understatement,
ply escalate the anger over time, which could the truth is, there’s a high chance that you
result in a larger fight. It’s not a good feeling, and your fiancé are going to fight like honey-
hearing about these kinds of situations, but badgers. There’s a lot of pressure on you both
acknowledging the idea that there will be to make things happen. You both want things
tension will actually benefit you in the long to be perfect, and the added stress may be
run. Prepare yourself for conflict, and know enough to cause the biggest conflict you’ve
that you’ll make it through what could be a ever experienced together. Don’t feel dis-
rocky road. couraged though, it’s a common side effect
of your surroundings, and there are plenty of
Try to look at your partner’s point of view useful ways to combat the combat.
with a sense of compassion. They’re feeling Whether it’s because you disagree on a

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