Page 100 - Wedding Essentials & Essential groom Issue 8

FROM
NEGLIGEE
TO NEGLECT
It all starts with that `thing’ between the two of you,
with stars in your shiny eyes and butterflies in your
tummy. Then the first curious kiss, followed by
holding hands. Date nights, movies, restaurants and
picnics follow. Romantic weekends away listening to
the wave’s crash gently on the golden sand, cocktails
on the rocks and fresh seafood served on the beach.
Watching soothing sunsets, magnificent moon rises
and dancing the night away. Messages on the fridge,
in the lunchbox or underwear drawer saying `I will
love you forever, you are my shining star’. Working
away tirelessly together to make your wedding that
perfect dream occasion, still flirting, laughing and
catching each other’s eyes across the crowded room.
Sound familiar? Great, you are off to the right start. “How do I do this?” you might ponder.
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However, beware of the sex recession. The slip-
pery satin sheets could see you falling out of bed
with a thud as time goes by.
Long-term relationships can lose their zest and
sparkle, leaving the couple feeling lonely, lost
and asking yourself – is it possible to reignite
the flame? This downward spiral can lead to
your dreams being smashed and broken.
The good news is you can minimise the chances
of this happening, even through some tough
and stale moments. The reality show of your life
has become boring and mundane. Work, work,
work, kids, kids, kids and chores, chores, chores
with perhaps a dash of financial stress. Beware
of becoming `co-parents’ or roommates, no
matter how old you are, fun and pleasure are
essential to living a long and happy life.
And did I add being the lover part?
There is no such thing as `there is not enough
time’. Make it. Reprioritise. Stop taking your
relationship for granted and being negligent of
each other. It was once the most important thing
in your life, so it is time to re-establish this as a
priority, the happy, energetic and fulfilled way.
Here are some ways on how to demolish the
negligent and bring the intimacy of your negli-
gee back into your life.
1. Which of you values romance the most?
The one who notices that things are sliding, is
the one who can start making changes earlier
on to try and prevent an even worse landslide.
Whilst not solely his/ her responsibility, they are
capable of influencing the depth of your con-
nection.
2. Date night. This is always a magic way
to start re-introducing some fun and passion.
Or pick a day filled with fun activities, attend
an event or concert together, stroll around the
market and pick out fresh veggies together, eat
at different restaurants, make surprise plans,
prepare a home-made, candle-lit night at home
(Note: send the kids to friends) and to really go