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the pressure just as you are, so maintaining ing conflict. Take a moment to think about
a sense of sympathy will be a fantastic way the types of situations that really get your
to keep calm in stressful situations. Don’t blood boiling, and again, communicate in a
be afraid to speak your mind if you disa- healthy and calm way. What is it that upsets
gree with something. If you keep calm when you, and how do you want your partner to
giving your opinion, it will not only negate accommodate these things that really tick
the conflict which could have happened, you off.
but it will also prevent you from keeping the
feeling bottled up, which could lead to an Ask your partner how they’re doing, make
unnecessary outburst. sure they aren’t feeling overwhelmed by
the pressures. One will often find that acts
If there is something that is bugging you, of aggression tend to stem from feelings
try to look at the situation objectively. You of isolation. The best way to beat anger is
may be furious with your partner at times, by showing love and compassion, let your
but if you take a step back, have a cup of tea fiancé know that they aren’t fighting the
and think about the situation, you’ll come battle alone, have their back and show
to realise that you’re both going through the them the love that they need in this time of
same thing. Use this opportunity to unite struggle.
and take on the challenges as a team. You’re
doing this for each other, you’re doing this Conflict is a common and almost unavoida-
because you love one another immensely, ble part of planning a wedding, but just re-
never forget that when you feel like you’re member the 3 C’s in times of disagreement,
not in agreement. Communicate Calmly and with Compassion.
Looking internally is a huge part of resolv-

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