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want to dive headfirst into the play party scene, where sex is everywhere and you’ll find Bringing Kink into Your Daily Life
gorgeous nubiles bound in rope, waiting to be played with? These options and everything
in between will most likely be available: Kinksters are generally loud and proud, and they
aren’t shy about putting themselves out there, so see what’s going on where you live and
get yourself out to an event. Once you’ve met one rope-loving friend, you’re sure to find
many more—and then who knows where the fun will end?
Some people will tell you that they found sexy strangers on Craigslist, and that this turned
into one of their most fulfilling bondage/BDSM-based relationships. That’s absolutely
wonderful for them, but searching Craigslist for sexy, interesting people is like shopping at
Target on Black Friday: You might find something wonderful, but you’ll have to risk your
sanity and your limbs to do so. The anonymity of Craigslist and the ease of posting mean
that you can never be sure who’s behind the username, so I would recommend proceeding
with great caution on that site; at the very least, if you arrange to meet up with someone,
go with your friend or partner and make sure that someone knows where you are.
Once you find some people around you who love the same things that you love, and can
hold your hand (and anything else you might like held) while you delve deeper into the
scene, you’ll find yourself in a whole new world of kinky fun time, whether you’re on your
own or with a partner/partners. There really is nothing like being part of a solid, sexy
community full of exciting people and kinky opportunities, and you might find yourself
organizing parties, events, and meetups before you know it! Don’t be afraid to put yourself
out there, as underneath all the latex and leather, the BDSM community is a loving, cuddly
place full of wonderful people, and they’ll welcome you with open arms (and open legs) no
matter who you are.
But don’t forget what your mum told you: Never play with strangers.
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For some, a semiregular night getting tied up by the wrists and ankles and ravished with
numerous sex toys and an almighty amount of lube (water-based if you’re using condoms,
remember) is more than enough bondage. For others, like me, the realization that life
without bondage just isn’t as fun comes quickly, and the calendar becomes more and more
crowded with nights set aside for evenings full of rope, tape, leg spreaders, and squealing.
However, as time-poor individuals with barely enough time to dress and eat before getting
the kids to school before work (and the moms in the playground still whisper about that
memorable morning when you got so tangled up in breakfasts and packed lunches that you
forgot to put on a top), it can be difficult to find a space in your daily life to set aside a little
adult playtime.
Some people find that simply fitting bondage or BDSM into a few nights per week, or on
their few days off, simply isn’t enough. These people crave kink all day long, and yearn
for the freedom that they find by operating within set roles. If you can relate to this and
you’ve already spent a good long time in a power exchange relationship, you may find
that a 24/7 Total Power Exchange relationship is for you. This is a partnership in which one
partner gives up total control of their lives to another, to live as a submissive all day, every
day. In this kind of relationship, the lives of both (or all) partners are completely defined by
their roles as dominant and submissive; for instance, the submissive will leave all decision
making up to the dominant, and they may even express the relationship in public by
having the dominant lead the submissive around and make the sub perform tasks for him
or her. This is, of course, a very intense type of situation, and most people won’t ever feel
themselves totally ready for this type of arrangement.
If you don’t feel that a full time D/S relationship is what you’re looking for, then there
are many other ways of ensuring that bondage and discipline are mainstays in your daily
life. For instance, if you are mistress and you want your submissive partner to feel your
presence all day long, why not have him wear your underwear under his pinstripe suit,
so that in meetings with the CEO he can feel the lace of your panties gently tickling his
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