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For me, the art and enjoyment starts the moment before the rope falls into place, that
                      specially charged moment where your eyes meet and then your partner’s demurely drop
                      and you pull him or her close to you, your hands starting slow, beginning the dance of
                      wrapping and feeling connected to your partner. Of feeling your partner relax and exhale
                      and fall into the dance of binding and caressing. Of your partner’s head relaxing back
                      against your chest as you carefully tie him or her, watching your partner forget his or her
                      cares and worries and just be in that moment with you. Where there is nothing but you
                      two, and what you are doing, and the rest of the world falls away. That is what I love most
                      and I hope you have a chance to experience it as well.




                      Finding a BDSM Community


                      If you’ve taken your first steps into bondage with your long-term partner(s), and you’ve
                      both loved it so much that you want to make it a larger part of your life, then your next
                      step might be finding the bondage/BDSM community in your city. This isn’t to imply that
                      you have to go straight from a little light wrist bondage and blindfolding to hardcore
                      swinging—far from it. There are many benefits that being part of a community can give
                      you, and not all of them are orgasm-related (although the best benefits of anything are
                      always orgasm-related, if you ask me). Think of the BDSM community like a book group:
                      You don’t sit around reading books with your book group, do you? No; you discuss books,
                      recommend good reads to each other and drink wine while waxing lyrical about the virtues
                      of Jane Austen over the Brontës. In other words, you share in each other’s knowledge
                      about a subject that you all enjoy. Your inclusion in a BDSM community can be just the
                      same; meeting likeminded people to share the best places to get colored rope and bondage
                      tape, and which creams help bruising go down to avoid awkward questions.














                      ƒ This tie uses a very simple Futo, which makes Alex look gorgeous.
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